What do you think ?

Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass its about learing to dance in the rain and loving it. Go not where the path may lead go instead where there is no path and leave a trail " Ralph Emerson "

Tuesday, August 31, 2010

quotes to live by

Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate, but through being the right mate. ~Barnett R. Brickner


A long marriage is two people trying to dance a duet and two solos at the same time. ~Anne Taylor Fleming

If you made a list of the reasons why any couple got married, and another list of the reasons for their divorce, you'd have a hell of a lot of overlapping. ~Mignon McLaughlin, The Neurotic's Notebook, 1960

Sunday, August 29, 2010

What I think is the number one reason people divorce

As a mediator I get to hear both sides of the story his and yours and some where in the middle is the truth. People do not really listen to there spouse its always about what he or she did to me . Let me add I have been a Family mediator for 16 years and have been married for 20 and it is hard work . But the real reason people divorce these days is financial and lack of communication . Almost all of the Divorce Mediation's I do are having financial difficulty could be the economic down turn of this century . They have lost their jobs, homes , cars and sense of security and instead of working together to get through this tough time they pull apart and blame the other person. In the past people did not have  allot of  money or the life styles that we have today so they expected that life was just hard and worked through it . Today we are  all about the now and having the American dream . We want what we cant have the big house and fancy cars and are willing to pay for it on credit to get it . We are the I want it now generation.